What is the secret to having a happy life? This is a very extensive topic, but I will do my best to keep the introduction short and to the point by covering one main thing that creates happiness. People believe that money and being rich will make them happy. Studies show that the amount of money a person makes a year correlates to the amount of happiness they experience up to about $70,000 a year. You could make $10 mil a year, and that amount would not make you any happier than if you made $70000 a year. So to an extent, money correlates with happiness, due to the ability to have enough money for basic needs and desires. being rich will not make you happy. There are Millionaires and billionaires who are miserable and depressed. Being rich will not make you happy. You can be rich, wealth, abundant and be happy, but it’s not money that will makes you happy.
People belief that finding the love of their life and getting married will make them happy. If only I had that perfect woman or perfect man, my life would be complete and I would be happy! Unfortunately this is also untrue. 50% of marriages end in divorce. That does not even account for the people who are in a marriage that are unhappy. Don’t get me wrong, you can absolutely be happy being in a relationship, but being in a relationship is not what makes a person happy or create a happy life
What about being famous, loved by everyone? How many celebrities end up getting depressed or going crazy? The spotlight always being on you always being judged. Fame will not make you happy.
having that nice car, big house, retiring on a secluded island somewhere drinking margaritas and bathing in the sun all day? Maybe even traveling the world visiting all the most beautiful exotic places on earth. I know you’ve fantasized about that. Will this make you happy? It definitely sounds like it would, but it won’t. The truth is, most people would become bored out of their mind within a couple months.
It’s ok if you believe these things will make you happy. I do too a lot of the time and still sometimes get sucked back into these beliefs.
So what is it? If everything I thought would make me happy wont actually make me happy, then What is the secret to being happy?
The secret, is growth and progress. The secret to happiness is growing. Growing in any part of your life that has meaning to you. You can be in a struggling relationship, but if you begin to take the steps to improve that relationship and grow in that relationship, it will begin to bring you happiness. If you are poor with a dead end job, all you need to do is start taking the steps to getting out of that poor dead end job. Whether that’s working harder, taking classes, reading, listening to audio books, feeding your mind, improving yourself, any steps forward. This will bring you true happiness. If you are unhealthy, or overweight, or have health concerns, begin to take the steps necessary to become healthy. Whether that is simply learning how to be health or actually working out and eating better. When you begin to take action and taking the steps to improve you life, to improve yourself as a person, to grow, you will begin to feel such joy in your life. You will have an overflow of energy coming to you, motivation to do anything.
I know that is may seem counterintuitive because the steps to being wealthy, having a great relationship, being healthy actually requires you to be unhappy for some time. It requires you to struggle, it requires you to take risks and fail. And this in itself will cause you pain. But I assure you, the risk is worth the reward, because the opposite of growth is unsustainable. If you are not growing, you are dying. Weather that be your physical health, or your mental and emotional well-being. If you are not emotionally growing, you are emotionally dying. If you are not mentally growing, you are mentally dying, if you are not physically growing healthier, you are physically dying. This is why you are unhappy in certain areas of your life. If you are not growing in these areas, you will feel it. It will feel like something is missing. That is because you are not making any progress in this part of your life. But once you begin to take the steps that require you to grow, you will begin to feel that happiness throughout.
We are humans. Everyone feels pain physically and emotionally. It is just a part of life and we have to accept that. We can not be happy at every moment of the day. How many times have you felt yourself trying so hard just to hold on to a happy feeling or moment in your life just to have it slip away? Then try so hard just to get that feeling back again. You must accept the fact that you can not and will not always be happy, but in these moments of unhappiness, you can know that the happy feeling may have gone, but it will always come back. Be grateful in the moment you are happy, and look forward to the future happiness you will experience.